by Angela Mascio
I like to explain life coaching as a form of decluttering your mind.
Our method of coaching follows a lot of the steps Marie Kondo uses to declutter your house. (If you’ve never heard of Marie Kondo, she’s basically the master of organizing and decluttering.)
In her book entitled “The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up” she outlines a process for decluttering. Basically you pick a room and pull everything out of drawers, closets etc. and put it in a pile in the middle of the room. Then you go through those belongings one by one and decide if you are going to keep or get rid of them. The criteria for keeping an item is that it needs to either be useful or bring you joy.
Coaching works a lot the same way, but instead of decluttering your stuff you are decluttering your thoughts.
You start by doing a brain dump and getting all your thoughts on a particular subject out on paper. Then, you go through those thoughts and determine which ones you want to keep and which ones you want to leave behind. A coach can help you question your thoughts and see them in a new light.
I have the same criteria for keeping thoughts as Marie Kondo has for keeping things–it either needs to be useful or bring me joy.
It would be nice if it were as easy to get rid of thoughts as it is to throw away old clothes or broken toys. Unfortunately, we have a lot of practice at thinking thoughts that are neither helpful nor joyful. It takes work to retrain your brain and declutter those negative thought patterns.
But it’s worth it.
The result is, as Marie Kondo puts it, “life changing.”